Who and What

In the previous post, I mentioned about 'Being their friend because of who they are and not what they are.'
What do I mean?
Let's just say, I have a friend.
And let's say I treated her as a good friend because she is pretty, clever, and never does mistakes. She's someone good to be with.
But one day, she cut her hair, she looked ugly, she became fatter, she became less clever, she starts to copy answers, and surprisingly, she tore my favourite book.
Without any explanation or any understandings, I immediately go away from her, and never talk to her again.
That, is being their friend of what they are.
What is being their friend of who they are then?
Its friending them with heart, not by their outsides.
Its when things start to change about her, I understand her before her explanations.
Who knows, she may have went through difficulties, or maybe being sad at the moment?
Maybe stress? or depression? Well, who knows?
We should look at things on every side of it.
We should think this way, if you were on her situation, and if you do this, what will she feel?
If you were on her situation, what will she do?
If you were on her situation, what is going around her mind now? What is she thinking?
Let's say if I left her because of her change, which I don't know why she changed.
What will she feel? At one moment, everything seems to go bad for her.
Lets say.. first, she grew fat because of her lack of exercise and more unhealthy food. Her family went broke, and she just got to cut her hair herself in order not to break school rules.She had no money for tuitions and she sits at the back of the class and her class is normally filled with noise, eveybody playing etc. She can't concentrate on her studies. And so she tend to copy answers from some clever friends who always gets first in class. Her eyes were filled with tears because evey bad thing tends to fall on her at just one time. With her blurry eyes she took her book where she use to note all important notes and tore a blank page off because she lost her exercise book and teacher wants her to get her work done. Who knows, she didn't know it was my book.
Everything is possible.
And lets say you left her because of her change, then she left nothing. Not even a friend.
BUT.
But if you tend to have high IQ, you think about it before what you do.
You understand her without any explanations of hers.
You believe her, you trust her.
You know something must have gone wrong and caused the change of her.
And so you gave her love, confidence, strength, money, and most importantly, heart.
Wow the end will be so totally different from the previous example I made.
What I mainly want to say is....
seperate the body and the behaviour.
Love the sinner, hate the sin.
It does make a difference =)
just because you broke your mum's favourite vase, that don't make you a bad person.
You only made a mistake. As it is said, Love the sinner, hate the sin.

Lol maybe its really right to think and picture every side of the cube, or maybe just me thinking too much. Haha! But really, Do to others what you want others to do to you. And not, Do to others what others tend to do to you. =)

Thankyou for reading =)